Going through weeks, months or years of drug or alcohol abuse takes a huge toll on the person suffering from a substance abuse disorder.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThey need support and care and they need to give and accept forgiveness from those they love \u2014 but how can the people closest to an individual struggling with addiction cope with this new and distressing family dynamic? Relationships change, often for the worse, when addiction steps into play. The person you know and love may seem like a completely different individual when under the influence of addiction, and the result is instability in the family unit.\r\n\r\nFamilies dealing with addiction aren\u2019t just dealing with psychological and emotional turbulence. Being placed under the constant stress of trying to process and understand new and destructive behavior may result in strains on physical health, too, for children and adults alike. To get a good understanding of how addiction affects the family unit, we have to examine the effects on each part of the family structure and how family members may respond to the substance abuser as well as each other. Family politics are always complicated, but addiction increases the complexity of relationships far beyond what most people know how to deal with.\r\nAddiction and the Family Unit\r\nIf your family is going through the changes brought on by addiction, you may see some unfamiliar and confusing dynamics begin to arise. Though they may not all arise at the same time, most families undergo six marked changes in the case of a family member struggling with addiction:\r\n1. Parental Denial\r\nParents, as role models, tend to deny for as long as possible they or a family member have a substance abuse problem. If they themselves are the ones abusing drugs or alcohol, the parent may cling to the idea that \u201cit\u2019s not that bad\u201d or their actions won\u2019t do that much harm to their children and other family members.\r\n\r\nIn the case of a son or daughter abusing drugs, a parent may feel this couldn\u2019t possibly be true \u2014 after all, substance abuse can only be the result of bad parenting, right? It\u2019s important for parents to remember this isn\u2019t the case, and denying the existence of an addiction problem will only allow the problem to persist.\r\n2. Parental Inconsistency\r\nThis manifests as a lack of structure in the family, leading to erratic rule-setting and enforcement, and often leads children to act out as an attempt to define unclear boundaries. In children and young adults, a lack of consistent reaction and consequences to behaviors results in confusion that may delay or unravel emotional development in the long run. Parental inconsistency is equally damaging when the parent is the substance abuser as when the son or daughter is the one struggling. Either way, the child is worse off for not receiving the behavioral scaffolding they need to grow as an individual.\r\n3. Negativism\r\nAt some point, the stress of tip-toeing around addiction \u2014 as so many families do \u2014 catches up, and the atmosphere surrounding family dealings takes up an unmistakable air of negativity. The tide will turn, and mounting feelings of distrust will result in constant criticism, complaint, and other expressions of negativity, while any positive occurrences may get swept under the rug. For kids, this often means the only way to get attention is to initiate crisis, which may lead to a downward spiral of intentionally inflammatory behavior.\r\n4. Misdirection of Anger\r\nWith all these feelings flying, it can be extremely difficult for family members to properly process their negative emotions. The lack of emotional tools available may result in children or parents funneling their resentment and anger into inappropriate channels such as further substance abuse or other harmful behaviors.\r\n5. Unrealistic Expectations\r\nWhen parents are addicted to substances, it often becomes the case that expectations are skewed either positively or negatively \u2014 but in either case, don\u2019t bear much resemblance to reality. Parents of an individual struggling with addiction may create a hopeless situation for their son or daughter by dropping the bar for achievement through the floor, and thereby eliminating the drive and support necessary for success. On the other hand, children whose parents struggle with addiction may choose to overcompensate in school, sports or another pursuit due to the feeling that nothing will ever be good enough. It\u2019s important to remember addiction is one aspect of reality, but shouldn\u2019t overhaul all expectations going forward.\r\n6. Self-Medication\r\nAll the dynamics listed above can prove overwhelming to any family, even in the best of circumstances. An unfortunate fact is when people deal with extended periods of stress, depression and anxiety may arise as a natural consequence. Sadly, many individuals choose to treat this natural symptom by unnatural means \u2014 often more drugs or alcohol. What began as an isolated case of substance abuse in a family may spread more quickly than most would like to admit. In fact, people whose parents struggle with addiction are 3-4 times more likely to deal with addiction themselves. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so vital to enlist the help of a substance abuse and addiction expert to help get your family back on track once addiction starts rearing its head.\r\n\r\n\r\nHow Families Can Recover Together\r\nAs complex as addiction is for one person, things get even murkier when the family unit is involved. Though many families have basic tools for coming together and working things out on a normal basis, most have no clue how to proceed when addiction is in play. This is primarily because addiction and its subsequent behavior patterns completely defy rationality. Most people approach family matters with the mind that family is the highest rung on the priority ladder, but addiction turns that notion on its head.\r\n\r\nChemical dependency happens when the brain\u2019s reward circuitry is overloaded multiple times by drugs or alcohol. These substances cause so much activity in the areas of the brain that process rewards that normal and necessary stimuli \u2014 such as eating, drinking, sleeping, and socializing \u2014 take a back seat to drug abuse when it comes to prioritizing.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nFor this reason, it\u2019s incredibly difficult to get through to a family member who is addicted. They\u2019ve simply been rewired by drugs or alcohol to respond minimally or not at all to things they used to view as high-priority \u2014 family relationships included. That\u2019s why families with a drug- or alcohol-dependent member should really consider enlisting the services of a trained intervention specialist to help guide them through the intensity of an intervention. About 10 percent of Americans have recovered from addiction, and recovery has the best chance of success when the family is involved and supportive from the get-go. So follow these basic steps to intervention for your family member:\r\n1. Gather Friends and Family\r\nBefore you do anything, it\u2019s necessary to gather everyone of importance in the addict\u2019s life. This is usually family and a few close friends. Work with the group to form a plan of action: who will speak in what order and what they will say. Try to envision how the person will react, and discuss how you will take those reactions in stride for a productive intervention.\r\n2. Consult a Mental Health Professional\r\nOnce you\u2019ve formed your taskforce and have a good idea of what you\u2019d like to say and achieve, take your plan to a licensed therapist or intervention specialist. They will be able to help you eliminate ineffective aspects and bulk up the effective parts of your strategy, as well as rehearse the intervention beforehand to work out any kinks.\r\n3. Choose an Appropriate Location\r\nIt\u2019s vitally important you pick a location where the person will feel safe. In many cases, families choose their own home or the home of someone extremely close to the person. Interventions don\u2019t work if you can\u2019t make the person feel safe, so their comfort and security are of the utmost importance when choosing a place to hold yours.\r\n4. Ask the Person to Confirm There\u2019s a Problem\r\nThe whole point of an intervention is to get the subject to admit there\u2019s a problem with their continued substance abuse. The mistake many groups make is trying to force accusations onto the person they\u2019re trying to help. Even if the group is right about what they\u2019re saying, the goal is to work with the person the intervention is aimed at. You don\u2019t want to back them into a corner and force a confession. Instead, you want to show them admitting to their problem is beneficial to the family as a whole, including themselves.\r\n5. Present Meaningful Consequences\r\nDenial is a powerful and integral aspect of addiction. That means individuals will continue their destructive behavior even in spite of the natural consequences. Interventions are meant to jolt the person out of their addictive fog and back into rationality. You can do this by coming up with a list of fair and significant consequences you and the group will implement if the person continues on their current path of substance abuse. For example, a partner or spouse might make it known if the substance abuse continues, the person will forfeit their right to visitation or custody of their child.\r\n6. Offer Immediate Treatment\r\nThe end goal of an intervention is to get the person to accept treatment. Even if they admit to their addiction, they may not want to go to rehab, so having a plan in hand to present can greatly boost your chances of getting through to your family member. Contact a reputable drug and alcohol rehab center and get the specifics of their drug and alcohol rehab program so you can answer all the questions your loved one has without giving them the time to reconsider and back out of the treatment they need.\r\n7. End on a Positive Note\r\nIt may be difficult to retain positivity when you\u2019re in the process of an intervention, but it\u2019s still a very important aspect of fostering successful recovery. Take the time to verbally reinforce the group\u2019s support of the addicted person, and make sure they really understand how proud you are they\u2019re making hard decisions and taking tough steps that will eventually lead to a happy and healthy family life.\r\nFamilies Participating in Treatment\r\nA single look at most substance abuse counseling programs will tell you there\u2019s one thing missing from the equation for success: family involvement. Clarity Way understands removing an individual from their family for an extended period of time is more likely to hurt than help the recovery process, so the substance abuse treatment program embraces the participation of families in the individual\u2019s treatment through a number of integrated program features.\r\n\r\n\r\nUpdates and Interaction\r\nIt\u2019s stressful on everyone to be deprived of contact from family members, so clients in treatment at Clarity Way have the option to have regular updates on therapy progress sent directly to their family. When the family knows about progress and changes in treatment, it makes it easier to grow and adjust with the process so everyone\u2019s on the same page of recovery. The program even encourages family interaction through regular phone calls, on-site visits, and special events.\r\nFamily Day\r\nOnce per month, Clarity Way invites the families of clients to come see what treatment is all about. Aside from the opportunity to learn more about the healthy habits and coping strategies their loved one is learning, Family Day gives everyone the chance to associate recovery with family and fun \u2014 helping to ease the transition back into day-to-day life after the family member completes treatment.\r\nFamily Counseling\r\nJust as therapy is necessary for the addicted individual to unpack and understand their substance abuse baggage, it\u2019s essential for families in order to understand the changes in their lives and how to move forward in a healthy and constructive manner. By bringing families to their loved ones in treatment, Clarity Way fosters a uniquely inclusive environment where individuals can recover with the ongoing support of their families.\r\n\r\nFamily therapy encourages each member of the unit to speak up about concerns they might not otherwise feel safe or properly equipped to voice. Though it isn\u2019t without its share of painful moments and tension, laying everything out on the table with the guidance of a clinical professional is the surest way forward for a family torn apart by drug abuse and addiction.\r\n\r\n\r\nRecovering Together\r\nAddiction is a disease that often goes hand in hand with isolation. Withdrawing from friends and family is a defense mechanism that allows denial to remain intact, and for the individual to maintain the delusion that what they\u2019re doing to themselves and others isn\u2019t too dire of a situation. However, isolation is also one of the biggest predictors of failure in recovery. That\u2019s why most aftercare programs provide a focus on creating support networks for life after rehab.\r\n\r\nFor many individuals, family can prove to be one of the most invaluable sources of support available, but only if the family is willing to play an active role in the person\u2019s recovery. That\u2019s why it\u2019s vital to enroll in a program that values the input and participation of family members in a person\u2019s recovery. At Clarity Way, our ultimate goal is to help you and your family find your way to recovery together, through family therapy and activities that encourage family bonding and continued education.\r\n\r\nIf you\u2019re ready to take the next steps to beating your addiction, it\u2019s time to make the call. Compassionate intake specialists are ready to help guide you through the first days of recovery, and recovery professionals will be with you every step of the way. Don\u2019t wait any longer to begin the life you deserve \u2014 contact Clarity Way today.